This is our regular Tuesday Tips for Parenting guest post by Beckie Whitehouse from Be Confident Coaching.
Its not hard to do; spend time with your kids, it can be the best reward for them, and for you as well….
Yesterday our oldest returned from a weekend at cub camp. He had a fab time climbing, abseiling and going to bed late under canvas. I was expecting a tired grumpy boy and a fairly hard evening but to my delight he was a joy to have home…talking about his exploits and what they had eaten- always a highlight for him ever since he started school and I would say what was the best thing about today and the reply was pretty much always – lunch.
After a bath we sat and watched Dr Who which is something we have just started to do together. It’s great, I really enjoy it, he is such an outside boy and as his Dad loves footy and helps with his team, I kind of leave that to them. It’s a very special time, just him and me circled up on the sofa, his brother and sister in bed.
Although last night we were interrupted by his sister a couple of times, but she has her other times with me. I tend to take her to her swimming lessons so have a chance of one to one time then.
Watching TV or playing on the Wii is great but it doesn’t leave much room for conversation so it’s good to do other things. I will take any of them when I take the dog for a walk and have found this is a great time for the more difficult things to be talked through or when the kids want to get something off their chests.
Other activities which leave a bit of space for chatting are doing a puzzle, some gardening or playing a game (one where you don’t need to concentrate too hard). Not as I attempted last week, trying to play chess and answer one of the others questions – a disaster for me, but an utter triumph for my opponent; check mate within ten minutes!
The new challenge I can see is for the youngest (who is doing his first full day of school today). We were very used to time together when the others were at school, but now he’s there we will have to find a special time for just us.
This time is so important for them …time to be with a parent with no rivalry from other siblings. It shows them how important they are. We don’t have to do anything amazing (although sometimes it’s fun to do that) colouring together, reading a book, listening to them do their music practise; anything really.
It’s when you can set aside time to give to your children your undivided attention, when you stop in your busy lives to spend time with your kids; that’s when they feel special and loved.
How do you make time for your children? Is it harder when you have more than one? How have you overcome this? Let us know.
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