We have all done it…usually in the middle of a shopping aisle as your kid, who has a serious case of the terrible twos syndrome, kicks off in full few of the disapprovingly lady with Manolo shoes, perfectly coiffured hair, and not a snotty kid in sight…
Now we all know, that we are NOT ALONE.
In fact, in a recent survey that we did here on KiddyCharts, a staggering 83% of parents admit to bribing their kids. That’s a hell of a lot of sweets and chocolates to go around!
We have written about this on KiddyCharts before; we are a firm believer in rewards, otherwise why would we bother with the products alongside this blog? However, rewards and bribes are very different things. Sometimes kids are just happy with a bit more of your time; they don’t need a nice shiny new toy.
Most importantly, bribery occurs in the throws of the tantrum, as a manipulation to get the screaming to stop NOW. We just want a little bit of peace from the fighting, the arguing, or whatever it is that is currently driving you up the proverbial wall.
Its this we should try and avoid if we can as kids get savvy and know if they kick up a fuss, we back down. I know that we all succumb sometimes though ;-) We are, after all, human. Remember though, over half of those we surveyed said that it only works some of the time anyway!
So, just perform this little check to yourself whenever you are faced with a childzilla moment with your toddlers…
- Am I calm?
- Is my child calm?
- Am I offering this as a means to placate?
- Am I desperate?
Answer yes to these, and you really are bribing not rewarding. Ignore the bad, and praise the good – this can be much the better way to reward good behaviour. Lets try and avoid joining the 66% of parents that bribe with sweets and chocolates if we can – though the odd choccy button so you can get that trip to the loo in – that might be worth it!
Our lovely infographic helps give you some tips as well as showing some of the results of the survey in a fun way…we hope you like it! Do share it if you do :-)