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Tips for explaining divorce to your kids: Dealing with family life’s up and downs

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Family life is full of ups and downs, isn’t it? You wouldn’t be normal if you didn’t face a few hurdles along the way. 

There are so many different challenges and problems families experience. This can be anything from work-related stress and financial problems to changes in family circumstances, for example, blending families, divorce/separation, and a new baby.

Tips for explaining divorce to your kids: Dealing with family life's up and downs

Maybe you are struggling to deal with a difference in opinion you have with your partner or someone else in your family? Differing goals, values, beliefs, and personalities can be a cause for tension in any family.

It’s not all about the doom and gloom, though, as you will find lots of useful posts online on spending more time together as a family, and other things you can do to have a happier family life. 

Tips for explaining divorce to your kids: Dealing with family life's up and downs

Aside from spending quality time together, this includes communicating effectively, looking after yourself, and balancing work and family life. In today’s fast-paced world, it can be difficult to balance your personal life with your career, but taking on too much can leave you at a serious risk of burning out. 

If you are at the stage in your life whereby your family is going to separate and you don’t feel like there is any coming back from this, you will find lots of useful advice on how to manage the situation so that it is as stress-free for your and your children for possible.

Tips for helping your kids through a divorce

Tips for explaining divorce to your kids: Dealing with family life's up and downs

For example, if you are going through a divorce, the first step is to take your time choosing the best divorce solicitors for you. The last thing you want is an inexperienced solicitor that is going to make your situation even worse. 

After this, you need to put your children first. Children can suffer more than people realise during a divorce, as parents can be some engrossed in the bitterness of the divorce that they forget about how their children are feeling.

Tips for explaining divorce to your kids: Dealing with family life's up and downs

There are a number of different things that you can do in order to help your child through this situation. This includes:

  • Listening to your child more than you speak; answering their queries helps them to open up
  • Let them know they can talk about their feelings with you and explain that feeling angry, confused, or sad is okay
  • Keep up routines, for example, specific meal times and going to school
  • Avoid blame and do not share any negative feelings you have about your other half
  • Be honest but keep your child’s age in mind
  • Remind your child that both parents love them

We all go through difficult times as families. No matter whether you’re just going through a bit of a rocky patch or you have decided that your relationship has come to an end, it is important to get help and to be proactive when it comes to dealing with these situations. It could be that you just need to spend a bit more time together as a family. This is something we don’t tend to make enough time for today.

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Helen is a mum to two, social media consultant, and website editor; and this site is (we think) the only Social Enterprise parenting magazine! Since giving up being a business analyst when juggling travel, work and kids proved too complicated, she founded KiddyCharts so she could be with her kids, and use those grey cells at the same time. KiddyCharts has reach of over 1.1million across social and the site. The blog works with big family brands (including travel) to help promote their services, as well as offering free resources to parents of kids under 10. It gives 51%+ profits to Reverence for Life, who fund a number of important initiatives in Africa, including bringing running water and basic equipment to a school in Tanzania. Helen has worked as a digital marketing consultant (IDM qualified) with various organisations, including Channel Mum, Truprint, Talk to Mums, and Micro Scooters. She loves to be creative in the brand campaigns she works on. Get in touch TODAY!

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