5 reasons why is it OK to admit parenting is tough sometimes

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Let’s start by saying that being a parent is wonderful. However, sometimes it IS OK to not like it. In fact, it is normal to feel like this. We can’t all be shouting from the rooftops about how awesome it is, and not admitting to struggling sometimes with the whole parenting gig, can we? There are many that would LOVE to be lucky and have two, healthy, and pretty happy children. But…does that mean that it isn’t allowed for parents to admit that it can be dam tough? And that we want to fecking run away from it all completely and read a book without having to think about the next thing that needs doing as a parent, or the threat of another “mummy” whine from the 3 year old?

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OK to admit parenting is tough sometimes

We’ve taken a step back from the daily struggle of being a mom to try and think about why it is OK to admit that being a parent isn’t great sometimes. It IS tough. We are all in it together.

It takes a village to raise a child. Let’s work together to raise our kids, offering support and kindness every step of the way.

It doesn’t mean you don’t love them

parenting is tough sometimes

When parenting, sometimes tough choices have to be made about what’s to be done; including making decisions that aren’t popular with the children. That can mean they can angry, defiant, and sometimes extremely hurtful in that moment:

“You don’t love me otherwise you wouldn’t do that!”

“I hate you!

Say teens, and kids the world over….

It can be really hurtful when they say these things. Parents can feel upset, and cross. Feeling this doesn’t mean our children aren’t liked or loved, it just means that the way they are behaving isn’t acceptable.

That is 100% fine, and 100% normal too.

It is hard not to take things personally. BUT, know this emotion from your children will pass. Particular if, as parents, there is thought as to why these emotions have boiled over in our children. Do they feel listened to? Is there something else going on? It is also worth noting that f children speak to us like this, it can often mean that they feel secure in the knowledge that you WILL love them, no matter what – unconditionally even.

It doesn’t mean that you think they are a burden

parenting is tough

Sometimes it can be hard to parent in a crisis, particularly if your child feels like they need constant attention. Perhaps you want a break from having to help a child with special needs, or just want not to hear the phrase “mummy” again for 5 minutes.

Just wanting a little bit of me time is important for functioning properly. Me time is part of self care for moms.

“Until you have a kid with special needs you have no idea of the depth of your strength, tenacity and resourcefulness.”

Anonymous

Giving yourself time for self-care means better parenting overall, whatever the challenges faced.

You are only human

5 reasons why is it OK to admit parenting is tough sometimes

Nobody is able to function on reduced sleep, in a tense environment when conflict happens, without experiencing a gamut of emotions.

You are human. Humans were made to feel, so the positive moments of parenting cannot come without those negative moments too. For a child to show joy and love, they also need to have space and safety to show fear, anger and hurt.

The same is true for us. Embrace humanity. It makes us, and our children, the wonderful people they are, and what we hope them to be.

“Without pain, how could we know joy?”

John Green, The Fault in Our Stars

This is simplistic; to experience the good, the bad must be felt too.

Anyone spent time hugging children after a tantrum? All the really needed was love. It is important to remember that if children are acting up, they may be looking for a way to connect, and that post tantrum hug can provide this opportunity for them.

Acknowledging feelings helps you to work with them

If you KNOW you are feeling upset, and finding things tough, then you can work with it. Saying how you feel can actually help so much in dealing with those emotions giving you strategies to cope.

Have you ever thought back on your day and all the emotions you felt? Have you named those emotions? You might be surprised how hard you have to think to name a few, even from the last 24 hours.

Give it a go, and think positive emotions too.

Understanding how you feel, can help give power over those emotions, enabling more control.

Psychologist Dan Siegel even refers to this practice as:

Name it to tame it.” 

Dan Seigel

So yes parenting it tough, and it might make you angry, sad, happy, disappointed, thoughtful, confused, pleased, proud, and over-whelmed. All in the space of five minutes, but if you acknowledge this, you’re actually winning!

Nobody is perfect

Lastly, nobody gets it right ALL the time. We learn by making mistakes. So make them, learn from them, move on, and perhaps we can all accept that parenting is imperfect, perfection!

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