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The secret to losing weight without dieting

Losing weight is an important goal for me; I just wanted to be able to fit comfortably into size 14 dresses again, and not have to squeeze. As a mum that works from home, it is all to easy to get into bad food habits. However, dieting has never, ever worked for me. I just don’t have the mindset for diets, and, in my view, they just don’t work longer term for many people.

I wanted to find a solution that was more aimed for me; a way to alter my outlook and attitude to food, and not to give me four weeks to hang my hat on the latest fad.


Introducing my secret…

Take a bow; Thinking Slimmer. Despite my reservations, you seem to be working rather well. You may not be a diet, but you ARE trying to change the way I think, and this is what I have been searching for.

Let me give you a little background to my particular foodie feelings…

In my mind, diets are doomed to failure because:

  • They are short-term fixes, once you stop dieting, you inevitably go back to old habits, and if those habits are anything like mine, that means you won’t keep the weight off,
  • You are denying yourself foods you want, and that doesn’t make you feel good about the diet, and so there is every chance you’ll fail before you have really even started,
  • You are a slave to the scales, and how you feel depends not on how you really feel “inside,” but how the scales make you feel when you’ve read them. Are you losing weight? Did the scales give a “good” reading thos morning? Are you on the way up or on the way down?

I wanted to find a way to EDUCATE myself, not to pick up on the latest fad. I wanted to change my mindset so that I didn’t succumb to some of the habits that I knew were stopping me from making a good stab at losing weight effectively. In fact, these learned behaviours were stopping me from even having a go at trying, because I just felt I was setting myself up for a fall.

I knew my bad food habits. the ones that had prevented me from losing weight before, they were:

  • Snacking on sugary foods when I am bored,
  • Awful portion control; I give myself far too much food, and then eat it, even if I don’t actually need it, and I am not hungry anymore…I still feel compelled to finish my plate. Perhaps its something I have learnt from my early childhood days when mum used to ask me to finish everything on my plate. I need to un-learn it….
  • Eating for comfort, when my body doesn’t actually need food. In fact, its probably more likely to need a drink *and I don’t mean of the wine kind,* and
  • Not knowing enough about what is good for me, and having no-one I can really ask because we all struggle with what is healthy and what is not.

What is Thinking Slimmer about – how can it help you losing weight?I have been using Thinking Slimmer for losing weight without dieting - see what I thought and how I got on...

Four weeks ago, I decided that I would take a look at the Gold Subscription from Thinking Slimmer to see whether the Slimpod that they provide you with, and their other resources, could do what I’d heard from other bloggers, and the press. To be honest, I was a bit skeptical.

How in God’s name can listening to the same 9 minutes every night before you sleep change the way I behave? Utter phooey.

Erm, yep – that was four weeks ago, and yesterday I wore a dress for a the Channel Mum MumVidCon vlogging event that I wouldn’t have had the confidence to wear before. AND I photographed it too….

#MumVidCon here I come with all the @channelmum lovelies – my feet are already killing me! @youtubespacelondon @YouTubeSpaceLon @itv

A photo posted by Helen Neale ~ Kids / Travel (@kiddycharts) on

Later on the next day, as soon as I took my coat off in the hair dresser this evening, they said:

 “Oh Helen, have you lost weight. You definitely look like you have lost weight. You look great.”

Sandra, the owner of Thinking Slimmer has told me, it isn’t about the weight loss with their product, its about a goal…about visualising that goal, and breaking free of diet constraints. I don’t FEEL like I am on a diet, I feel like my habits are changing, and THIS is why I am losing weight. They aren’t there yet, and I know I need to do more work. For example, I have only just started listening to the ChillPod as part of the Gold Program, and I am still getting a little stressed here and there. BUT, my inbox is fit to burst, and I am writing this. I’m not stressing over all those people that need responding too, those emails can wait. I can move on.

Thinking Slimmer Gold Program has really helped me start to change my eating habits for the better. Find out how here....In addition, my motivation to get fitter isn’t there yet. I need a bit of help here too. Cue the FitPod, which I know the email support for the Thinking Slimmer Gold program will be sending me in a few week’s time. Hopefully, I shall be ready by then.

I have noticed the differences in my behaviour. A key part of the gold subscription is your commitment to writing down daily the little successes that you have had in changing the behaviour that YOU know is causing some of the problems that you have had in the past with food. For example, not having a pastry for breakfast, or resisting the urge to snack between breakfast and lunch.

It is this that has helped me, alongside the commitment to listening to the Slimpod that has had a big impact for me. Being a working mum means that I have little time commitment, but I can afford to read an email a day, and listen for ten minutes, right?

Diets make you feel a failure so quickly if you aren’t losing weight fast, but the attitude that Thinking Slimmer encourages is one of success NOT failure….

What did YOU do today that helps YOU reach your goal? Think about it. Celebrate it. Remember it, and use it to continue to be a success.

For me, this works. I have noticed so many positive changes in my behaviour in only four short weeks:

  • Drinking more water; I drank a Diet Coke every day before Thinking Slimmer, and I haven’t had a drop for four weeks. I drink water when I have a break while I am working in my study,
  • Eating many less snacks, and if I do snack they are much healthier ones. In fact, I have discovered the joy of the Light Graze Box, which is perfect for a pudding type treat, without anywhere near as many calories, and if you do still have the urge to snack is healthy, and
  • Reducing the size of my portions, though I am still finding it a little bit harder to educate my other half that I don’t quite eat as much as I used to. He’ll get there though :-)

Overall view (9/10)

All in all, it is helping massively. The cost of the program is c. £120 depending on the offers they currently have running. This is more than I would spend typically, but there are daily emails, lifetime online support and updates, and three pods within the program. In addition to this, there is a members area with additional resources. You do get a good deal for your money.

I AM losing weight, over half a stone to be precise, but MOST significantly, I don’t feel a failure. I do feel I can carry on, and eating is still a pleasure; not something to be worried about.

Thanks Thinking Slimmer. Long may it continue.

This post contains affiliate links, but I have tried the Gold subscription (currently £117), and it is working for me, and continues to do so. All opinions in this post are 100% honest, and I really am feeling more confident. Believe me, that is massively important for me at the moment. That instagram picture is, I do believe, the first one I have ever posted of me in an outfit, ever.

Helen is a mum to two, social media consultant, and website editor; and this site is (we think) the only Social Enterprise parenting magazine! Since giving up being a business analyst when juggling travel, work and kids proved too complicated, she founded KiddyCharts so she could be with her kids, and use those grey cells at the same time. KiddyCharts has reach of over 1.1million across social and the site. The blog works with big family brands (including travel) to help promote their services, as well as offering free resources to parents of kids under 10. It gives 51%+ profits to Reverence for Life, who fund a number of important initiatives in Africa, including bringing running water and basic equipment to a school in Tanzania. Helen has worked as a digital marketing consultant (IDM qualified) with various organisations, including Channel Mum, Truprint, Talk to Mums, and Micro Scooters. She loves to be creative in the brand campaigns she works on. Get in touch TODAY!

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Saheli Roy

Saturday 12th of March 2016

Hello Helen, This is something awesome, I have tried so many things for weight loss but didn't get the desired result. Now I will follow your tips and this time I think I will make it. Thank you so much for this article. It do helped me a lot.


Wednesday 2nd of March 2016

Ohh Helen you are Really cool... your tips is really awesome.. I like it.... thank you for sharing your knowledge.

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