Am I a self-effacing wallflower?
Self-effacing – what on earth?!? I know, if anyone reading this actually knows me, they won’t believe I am saying those words about myself. But I am.
KiddyCharts Printable Reward Charts has received many nominations through the years. In 2012, for example, we were nominated for the Cambridge Business Mums Conference Best Start Up Award. Someone else (bless them) did the nominating, and I am glad they did.
I didn’t make the short-list, but was very proud to have got where I did.
However, the process got me thinking about how I view myself as a business woman.
Are we all just that little bit too hard on ourselves and our accomplishments. Wallflowers that refuse to speak out about just how much we have actually managed to achieve.
Are you a seasoned business woman or are you looking for confidence tips for business women just starting out I hope you can find some inspiration from this post.
Nominate yourself for awards
You see, I had refused to nominate myself; my website wasn’t launched so that meant I hadn’t actually managed to get anything done.
Thinking about it after the nomination, I realised that was utter rubbish.
At that point I had been around for six months, and done a hell of a lot.
I’d got the business this far with just my slightly frenetic business brain, my wonderful networking friends, my kids and my iPad. So here I was, displaying my badge with pride.
No accomplishment is too small
Many of us will share when we are nominated for awards, but not that many of us will talk about the loss.
You may not have won, like I didn’t on that occasion, but your accomplishments are absolutely worth sharing. Starting a business takes courage and a lot of persistence and hard work – especially if you have a family and other priorities.
Don’t minimise what you’ve achieved and if possible share your accomplishments when you can! Those in your circle will be happy for you and even if they’re not, consider it practice for working on your confidence!
Learn to say NO!
Saying no is sometimes scary. Like, really scary; especially when you are in business. You may feel that you have to take on every job or client or attend every function if you want your business to succeed.
That’s not necessarily true.
By being more selective about what you take on you can be certain that you will only take on what you truly feel you can excel at. Which can be a big boost in your confidence and business!
Practice saying YES!
Whilst saying no may be something to work on sometimes saying yes is also difficult. Sometimes the fear of being too eager or appearing to be a people pleaser can stop us from saying yes.
It’s important as business women to take chances in our businesses and ultimately in ourselves. This means saying yes when the opportunity is the right one, even if the prospect feels scary!
Eradicate the “what ifs”
What if I fail?
What if I look like an idiot?
What if I don’t look the part?
What if this is a waste of time?
There are many ways that we can sabotage our success and one of those ways is by focusing on the “what ifs”. The biggest way that you can mentally prepare for success is by forgetting all about what could go wrong and focusing on the here and now.
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