When a family decides that things aren’t working out as they are, and it is time for the parents to split up, this is a harrowing time for everyone. It is hard to manage the emotional journey that everyone is now going on, alongside the practical aspects to the split, from seeing the children, to managing the family finances.
Every family will have a different set of circumstances, the reasons for the split may be tough in themselves, or it could be that the break-up is mutual. Whatever has driven the decision process to this end, we hope that all parties concerned will try and work through things with their children as carefully as possible. Honesty and co-operation between parents can assist kids with what is always going to be a strange and confusing time for them.
This month, for our parenting tips linky, we are going to bring you some resources and articles that help you prepare and assist your children if you are going through a divorce, or separating with your partner. We have pulled together anything that provides relevant advice, and tools to provide information both for you and your children including:
Books that discuss the topic
Activities that can assist understanding, and
Advice for you about how to talk to your children about the separation to enable an easier transition.
Whatever happens, it won’t be an easy time. However, you WILL get through it.
My take away from watching friends going through separation is not to be afraid to ask for help. Even if you aren’t the type to do so normally, you would be surprised at how understanding and supportive your friends can be when you most need them. Calling on their help when you are going through one of the toughest stages in your life is pretty much what those friends are for. Don’t be afraid to ask; there may very well be someone that can either just listen or offer that all important practical help when you most need it.
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I see that this is principly aimed at younger children but what about the case of adultchildren. I am currently going through divorce and it was particularly tough on my 18 year old daughter. I am going to blog about this at my own website but what could I or my ex have done to better prepare out adult children? I thought it would be easier but I know it definitely strained the relationship of my youngest daughter and ex. Just a thought that even older kiddies are still kiddies.