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Games to play for a perfect parent child relationship

How these DVDs can support parents to have the best possible relationship with their child

With the endless tasks of being a modern day parent, making sure you fit in daily quality time with your children can sometimes be difficult. Shockingly, statistics show that two thirds of communication between a parent and child is about daily routine. “Have you brushed your teeth, got your lunchbox, done your homework, remembered Uncle Bob is picking you up tomorrow?” And then in bed that night you have that painful feeling of knowing you haven’t really connected in any meaningful way with your child that day. What’ s more, after the first five years, many parents grow disheartened and feel de-skilled in maintaining regular quality time with their children: their increased independence, hobbies, time spent with peers, and the allure of all that technology! (Statistics show that a third of parents an d their children use devices at the dinner table.)

Games to play for a perfect parent child relationship

Yet scientific research shows that special relationship times are as important for an eight-year-old as they are for your eight-month year old: vital not only for bonding but also for brain development. So these DVDs are
designed to empower and inspire parents with fabulous new ideas to make the time spent with their children fun, engaging and deeply rewarding and its all backed by brain science!. Girls and boys even up to the age of 12
love the attachment play and having watched the DVDs, parents often say they feel a new confidence and excitement in relating to their children in ways that really deepen their attachment bond.

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Key rules of attachment play
1) Sit opposite your child, preferably on the floor on cushions. This optimises eye contact and in those moments of meeting, gives a deep psychological message of “I really enjoy being with you. You are delightful.”
2) For older children adjust the level of skills involved in the attachment play according to the age and ability of the child. Make sure it’ s challenging, (to avoid older children feeling ‘ silly,’ although in actuality this rarely happens) but not so much so, that anxiety about performance kicks in.
3) Have a “You-Me special playtime box”. It should contain bubbles, stickers, balls, Play Doh, feathers and other interesting things you will need for You- Me time. The box is only to be used for parent- child special time Here are some examples of attachment play games taken from the DVD, entitled, “Best Relationship with your Child: Age 5 to 12. “

Attachment play for kids who don’t want to get up in the morning

Give your child a menu of animal rides (see below) to take them to bed or get them up in the morning, starting the day with giggles rather than grumpiness.For example, you might ask, “Do you want a Wonky Stonky Tickle Ride or a Gruffly Goat with Giggles Ride?” Or ask them what animal they want you to be whilst they ride on your back. The nine- year old boy on the picture below on the right has just asked Dad to be a grizzly tiger. The eight year old on the left has asked Dad to be a ‘ Emergency Exit man”!?!

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Giving games

On the DVD “there are lots of giving and receiving games (parent to child and the other way round). Here is one of the giving games, in which the task is for the child to make a lovely (juice!) cocktail in three minutes flat, for his father, who accompanies him with a drummed appreciation song!

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Umbrella House

In this game parent and child each make an umbrella house (large golf size umbrellas) with the embellishment of snacks and blankets. Then who ever is going first, invites the other person into their house. The invitation can be accepted and the snacks shared whilst conversation flowing. But if the invitation is declined, it’ s because the invited person has said they are a duck. If this happens, both people do a duck dance around the umbrellas, (enhanced with duck whistles and duck caps). We found that even twelves year olds loved doing this with their parents.

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Mooga Chuga

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You need two plastic cups turned upside down, and a firm table. Set up a spontaneous improvised band 3 together, to the rhythm of Mooga Chuga Mooga Chuga (repeatedly chanted) using cup sounds and clapping. rhythms interchangeably.

Spontaneous physical attachment play throughout the day

Research shows that physical attachment play can activate brain fertilisers, which develop the executive functions in the higher human brain. This sort of play also triggers optimal levels of pro-social brain chemicals (anti- anxiety and anti-aggression chemicals). This is why when we want good behaviour from kids; playful parenting is far more effective than punishing parenting. There are lots of ideas for physical attachment play on the DVDs.

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As an example, here the parent and child (age 9) are playing “Shimmy Shimmy Cocopap. Secret Animal up your back. Which animal did that?” It starts with a lovely shoulder and arm wiggly contact! Then you simply take it in turns to draw an animal on the other person’ s back (with or without sounds) and ask your partner to guess what it is.

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Lap games (amazingly popular even up to age 7)

Put your child on your lap and say you’ve got something on your knee. E.g. “I’ve got a rolling pin on my knee”, “I’ ve got a horse on my knee”, “I’ve got a seesaw on my knee” then use sounds and movements associated with that object or living creature, and hear the child’ s shrieks of delight! Or ask the child what they would like you to be. The six-year-old in the picture above asked her carer to be ‘ twinkling stars’ and roared with laughter for a long time when twinkling stars descended in funny tickling all over her arms and legs.

Where can people find more information about your DVD or your work?

On my website or through the work of The Centre for Child Mental Health, London

Helen is a mum to two, social media consultant, and website editor; and this site is (we think) the only Social Enterprise parenting magazine! Since giving up being a business analyst when juggling travel, work and kids proved too complicated, she founded KiddyCharts so she could be with her kids, and use those grey cells at the same time. KiddyCharts has reach of over 1.1million across social and the site. The blog works with big family brands (including travel) to help promote their services, as well as offering free resources to parents of kids under 10. It gives 51%+ profits to Reverence for Life, who fund a number of important initiatives in Africa, including bringing running water and basic equipment to a school in Tanzania. Helen has worked as a digital marketing consultant (IDM qualified) with various organisations, including Channel Mum, Truprint, Talk to Mums, and Micro Scooters. She loves to be creative in the brand campaigns she works on. Get in touch TODAY!

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Thursday 7th of April 2016

Hi, Helen Great post. You have just included everything in a perfect way. Really liked your writings.

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