I went around to a good friend’s for tea. Her little boy did very well with the old potty training; did it himself virtually. We ended up chatting about potty training tips, and she refereed to a recent article on Babycentre US about five things that doctors would want you to do for your preschoolers.
The first thing on the list suggests that parents “don’t make potty training a battle.”
I am a firm believer in this; its my main potty training tip. I know its not rocket science. There is some evidence to suggest that potty training too early can lead to children having a weaker bladder. However, as always with these issues, there is also evidence to suggest the exact opposite! I guess we all have to decide what’s right for our child. Particularly if you read the Daily Fail…
One thing is clear to me though; if you start earlier than your child is ready, it may very well turn potty training into a battleground. But we all know how hard it is to know when your child is up for it…
My kids were both over three when we trained them. Some of the other children at their nursery were already done. But why should that have bothered me? My kids did other things at a different pace to them, such as walking and talking, so why not potty training?
However, competitive mum syndrome is a nightmare when it comes to potty training…
We used our own potty training charts when we felt they were ready, and they were both trained within a week.
From the age of two, we had books about the potty. We also had a potty in the bathroom. Both my kids would sit on it before bath; sometimes they would wee sometimes they wouldn’t.
Chatterbox decided one day she wanted big girl knickers. We went out and bought princess ones, she wore them and with the use of our reward charts that was pretty much it.
Stuntboy was a bit older, but he also said he wanted to wear pants. Superhero ones for him, and it was pretty much the same story.
We made sure we didn’t remind them to go to the toilet too much, and generally they took themselves off. We had the potty in the room they were in so it wasn’t far, but didn’t ask them if they wanted a wee every other second.
Too often, it seems, parents are pushed into training because they feel that they have to keep up with their friends, or other children in nursery. Unfortunately some nurseries won’t accept children until they are trained.
Is this thinking more for the nursery’s convenience than the child’s though? It’s a thought…
Perhaps its easier for mum to wash three sets of clothes rather than a nursery to manage the hygiene rules and chaos associated with changing nappies? Nurseries that take children from 4 months up are probably better positioned to put the processes in place to continue to support later trained children, I guess.
Shouldn’t it be a development issue? After all, nurseries wouldn’t say no to a child because they couldn’t run as well as another child. So why do they encourage parents to train their children before they attend?
Were you pressured to start potty training early by your nursery? Let us know your experiences, and give us your own potty training tips if you have any. If you need help, check out our potty training reward charts too.
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