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5 ways you can be a positive parent today

Firstly, what is ‘positive parenting’? As a mum or dad, you have probably heard this term thrown around. But what does it actually mean? Whether you have one child or three, parenting is never easy. Every day throws up a new set of challenges that makes us feel as though there isn’t a light at the end of the tunnel. No matter if you have a toddler or a teenager, parenting will sometimes feel like a marathon. And that’s where the method of positive parenting and learning how to be a positive parent comes in.

Now positive parenting isn’t a method that won’t allow for discipline to misbehaviour. Positive parenting will help you to develop a stronger relationship with your child by empowering them through setting realistic standards. Showing your child that you care about their opinions and that you listen to them, your child can learn how to adapt to different situations successfully. Based on the work of acclaimed psychologist Alfred Adler, positive parenting is used by millions of parents around the world.

Being a positive parent will help you develop a better relationship with your child by empowering them to set realistic standards. Learn more here with us!

So how can you be a positive parent? Here are five simple ways!

1. Spend quality time with your children every day

Dad holding daughter looking at the sea.

This might seem obvious, but by spending time with your children every day you will be able to build a strong relationship. No matter how long you spend with them – whether it’s 15 minutes or more, this quality time will show you what they are interested in, what they are thinking about, what they care about, etc. Turn off the TV and put your phone on silent and take them to the park or go on a walk with them. You could even just simply play a game with them (if they are young enough to still want to do that, of course). If you work full time this might seem challenging. But when you come back from work, spend some time with your children, asking about their day and how they are doing at school.

2. Teach them to help around the house

Child washing a pan.

By encouraging everyone in the house to pitch in, it will teach your child how to be responsible, teach them valuable life skills and it can bring the family together. Children need to know that they can’t rely on you to always clear up after them – they need to help too. Now, when it comes time to implement a routine, you shouldn’t do it in a way that makes them feel as though it’s not a chore. You will need to do it in a way that shows that everyone in the family is equal – you could do this by changing up the cleaning routine, by introducing rewards, etc.

3. Create a Daily routine

Being a positive parent will help you develop a better relationship with your child by empowering them to set realistic standards. Learn more here with us!

Children tend to flourish when they stick to a routine, so it’s a good idea to create a clearly defined one for them to follow each day. But this shouldn’t be done in a controlling and forceful way. Work with your children to create a routine that they will want to stick to. For example, they can decide whether they want to brush their teeth or if they get dressed first. By laying out a routine, challenging times of the day (i.e. dinner time) will gradually become easier. If you have a younger child, this routine can be created using a sticker chart which they can decorate themselves.

4. Find out the source of misbehaviour

Young boy looking out of window.

Often when your child is misbehaving, it’s a sign of a deeper issue. In order to fix the issue, take a moment to think about what might be causing it. For example, your child might be throwing a tantrum because you have given him water in a different cup than what he wanted. Although you might initially think this is silly, it’s really an issue that’s stemmed from him not being able to choose the cup that he really wanted. By taking the time to discover what is causing the issue, you will be able to find the right method to solve it.

Stop comparing your parenting to others

Being a positive parent will help you develop a better relationship with your child by empowering them to set realistic standards. Learn more here with us!

As a mum or dad, it’s easy to compare your parenting skills to others. But this isn’t helping you or your children. Take a step back and applaud yourself. Parenting is hard and it’s a learning curve. Lay off the pressure and try to realise that there is no such thing as the perfect parent. You’re doing the best that you can and as long as your children know how much they mean to you, you are on the path to success. By being confident about your parenting abilities, your children will feel supported and they will know that you are doing the best job possible.

Being a positive parent will help you develop a better relationship with your child by empowering them to set realistic standards. Learn more here with us!

Positive parenting is something that we truly believe in here on KiddyCharts. We have a few other ideas for you to help your kids. From printables to just some good old fashioned advice:

Of course, there are other approaches to how to be a positive parent too:

  • Imperfect families has a lovely book list for positive parenting,
  • Racheous has an excellent post on the idea that misbehaviour always has a reason and we need to look for the source. It is often a signal for something else, and
  • Parenting Chaos talks about the 5 principles of positive parenting. Go take a look and all worth remembering as we raise our kids:
    • Attachment,
    • Respect,
    • Proactive parenting,
    • Empathetic leadership, and
    • Positive discipline.

We hope you like this article on how to be a positive parent. And if you do – come back for more!

See you soon.


Helen is a mum to two, social media consultant, and website editor; and this site is (we think) the only Social Enterprise parenting magazine! Since giving up being a business analyst when juggling travel, work and kids proved too complicated, she founded KiddyCharts so she could be with her kids, and use those grey cells at the same time. KiddyCharts has reach of over 1.1million across social and the site. The blog works with big family brands (including travel) to help promote their services, as well as offering free resources to parents of kids under 10. It gives 51%+ profits to Reverence for Life, who fund a number of important initiatives in Africa, including bringing running water and basic equipment to a school in Tanzania. Helen has worked as a digital marketing consultant (IDM qualified) with various organisations, including Channel Mum, Truprint, Talk to Mums, and Micro Scooters. She loves to be creative in the brand campaigns she works on. Get in touch TODAY!

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Wednesday 26th of February 2020

Many parents I know can't help comparing themselves to others. It's not healthy and it's frustrating. We are all unique and what works in others may or may not work for us.

Rose Ann Sales

Wednesday 26th of February 2020

I agree to all these. Parents should start positive thinking attitude with their kids. It could make them stronger.


Tuesday 25th of February 2020

always for positive patentinf. the kids confidence is boost if they know their parents are more gentle and kinder.

David Elliott

Tuesday 25th of February 2020

I really do need to emphasize cleaning around the house with my daughter. I think it's something important for her. And I know it would feel easier for me to get the tasks I need to done.

Ayla Boswell

Tuesday 25th of February 2020

These were all great tips! I wish more parents practiced them!

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