This is our regular guest post by Beckie Whitehouse from Be Confident Coaching.
Last night, I was out for a drink at the pub for a friend’s birthday. It was all Mums, so naturally we did get to chatting about the kids and consequences from behaviour.
Someone had heard a suggestion that if the children misbehave in the car; you should pull over let them out to walk whilst you had a friend in another car behind who can keep an eye on them.
We quite liked the idea in principle!
It would make driving simpler and reduce headaches, but the practicalities are bit more complex – we would never get anything done if we were all following each other around; that’s us parents I mean. Plus what road is safe where we could do this?
Maybe older children, but my 4 year old?
And would we all have to go on holiday together?
The older two could do it on the roads around our village or even home from school, but we tend to walk anyway.
Plus -maybe its just us- a lot of the car squabbling (or where it really grates) is on longer journeys, simply as we are in the car for longer or the traffics bad and these trips involve motorways!!
…but we do have to teach our children their actions have consequences.
We work on the positives and reward those, but occasionally for continued misbehaviour and rudeness the older two have to miss Cubs or Brownies – their favourite activities – they hate it – I don’t like to do it, but sometimes it happens.
Not very often, but sometimes it does.
Whatever we decide a consequence is, we must mean it whether its’ a loss of a privileges or a reward. Children will very quickly pick up whether a parent will carry something through and know whether to change the way they are behaving or not. Think carefully or have a back up plan.
We have all done it.
I once said no to Brownies a week I was helping, which was all a bit ridiculous, so now we have an earning back programme just in case I speak again before I have engaged my brain!!!
How do you teach your children consequences – do tell us below.