Welcome to another parenting tales from the sofa where, as always, I am joined by Beckie Whitehouse of Be Confident Coaching to share her wisdom and advice. This week we are discussing how we can help to improve and create good self esteem among our children so they can feel good about themselves and all that they do, no matter how small it is.
What do we mean by self esteem? Self esteem can be linked to confidence although it is slightly different and can be a very fine line. Self esteem is about how your child looks, views and feel about himself. Whereas confidence is external and can be viewed from the outside, having good (or even low) self esteem is held internally.
So, how can we enourage good self self esteem? Here are a few tips on how you can build your child up and how he/she view themselves.
- Let your child know that we all make mistakes! None of us are perfect and we all make mistakes …. maybe, sometimes ;-)
- Praise your child for the things they have done; putting shoes away or doing well at a project in school. Not all praise has to be for big things, the small things are just as important and significant.
- Encouraging other members of the family to say something nice to each other at mealtimes; “I like mum as she takes the time to play with me”. Encourage each family member to take turns. Bigging ourselves up is not something that we are comfortable with in our culture but should most definitely be encouraged ;-)
- Encourage your child to say something good about herself
- Teach humility and recognising that other people have different strengths
These are just a few of the things that we have touched on, listen to our hangout to find out what other examples we have given:
Is your child a self esteem hero? Do they feel good about themselves? What do you do to encourage this?