This is our regular guest post by Beckie Whitehouse from Be Confident Coaching.
I did this morning – well the oldest one anyway! I am, of course. talking about walking to school (on their own).
He set off, the remaining three of us following shortly behind and we met up in the playground.
He does have to cross a couple of roads, our fairly quiet one and a busier one – but being 10 I feel he needs to begin these things – in another year he will be in his last few weeks at primary, preparing to go on to secondary school.
I say preparing, but that’s already begun, the year 5’s had their first visit last week…but that’s another story…
In all seriousness, I was asked this question
Would I let my children go out on their own?
It all came down to whether they would what to do if someone was hurt, or they were asked to get in a strangers car?
We have talked this through; about where other friends or people we know live, or to go to the local shop if they are near it.
We want them to feel safe, but also to know who to turn to and get help but in a way that does not frighten them.
The lady I was chatting to was concerned her children wouldn’t know what to do – and in a way she’s right – none of us can be 100% sure they would know exactly what to do and we cannot protect them from everything. All we can do is prepare them as best we can
In fact, that is our responsibility; to teach them skills to take out with them and use if need be.
We are lucky that we live in a quiet no through road, we know lots of our neighbours and there are other families whose kids go out and play with ours. It’s a great thing they can do; I could never play outside the house where I grew up because it was next to a main road.
Apart from that, it can be so convenient.
Now I can send either of the older two or both down to the local shop for the milk I forgot. But I have to keep an eye on the change. We happened to see one Sunday morning something being put in the bin on return and closer inspection revealed it to be a chocolate wrapper ….and so the conversation moves on to honesty!!