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How to help your child deal with disappointments

It isn't easy - even for an adult - dealing with disappointment, whether it s lower grade, a different class, or just something more simple. Here are some ideas to help out kids deal with those slightly tougher times....

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This week, with Beckie Whitehouse, we are talking about facing disappointment.  As adults we often face disappointments in our lives and it is just the same for children, especially when they have put their all into a particular task and it has not quite worked out as they had planned.

Children who are better able to deal with disappointment are better able to interpret failure, have a stronger sense of personal achievement and are better able to bounce back when things go wrong in their lives.

As parents, we are a major contributor to the thinking styles of our child’s developing minds, and there are a few things we can do to help such as not showing our own disappointment. Showing your own emotions of disappointment could lead your child to feel that they are a failure. Try to turn your own disappointment into a positive such as “you didn’t get the mark you wanted this time but I know how hard you worked”.

Teach your child to help her think optimistically to ‘decatastrophize’ the situation – that is – help your child see that the bad event may not be as bad or will not have the adverse consequences imagined. Few things in life are as devastating as we fear, yet we blow them up in our minds.

Here are our three top tips:

  • look at positive of a situation and turn it around.
  • Reward the efforts rather than the end result.
  • Separate the disappointments from your own

Has your child faced disappointment before?  How did you help them deal with it?

Helen is a mum to two, social media consultant, and website editor; and this site is (we think) the only Social Enterprise parenting magazine! Since giving up being a business analyst when juggling travel, work and kids proved too complicated, she founded KiddyCharts so she could be with her kids, and use those grey cells at the same time. KiddyCharts has reach of over 1.1million across social and the site. The blog works with big family brands (including travel) to help promote their services, as well as offering free resources to parents of kids under 10. It gives 51%+ profits to Reverence for Life, who fund a number of important initiatives in Africa, including bringing running water and basic equipment to a school in Tanzania. Helen has worked as a digital marketing consultant (IDM qualified) with various organisations, including Channel Mum, Truprint, Talk to Mums, and Micro Scooters. She loves to be creative in the brand campaigns she works on. Get in touch TODAY!

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