It’s been one of those weeks….and when we have one of those week’s the inevitable almost always happens. Yelling at the kids becomes something that, though I am trying not to do, it sneaks in during those stressful moment.
We all have them – I felt particularly hassled about work, the social media course I am doing, and the fact that it was the Easter holidays and work doesn’t seem to understand this at all. Blogging never stops…something that I am only just beginning to learn, three years in.
BUT this did give me the opportunity to actually stop and think about a few things:
- Why should we try to avoid yelling at kids?
- What can we actually do to stop yelling quite so much, or indeed try and cut it out altogether. Though, we have to be realistic too, and not beat ourselves up if we do shout. We are, after all, only human
- What to do if we do yell or shout at the children, and finally,
- Some alternative shouting!
I know most people don’t wake up in the morning with the idea that they are going to shout at their children; some how, for whatever reason, the day may not go as well as we have imagined, and then somehow, somewhere, we let that perfect parenting veil slip, and we are away. Yelling at the kids in a way that we loathe, and then afterwards, we loathe ourselves for doing it too.
I strongly believe that our kids mirror us – so if we yell, hey, so do they. I have therefore tried my best NOT to be a shouty parent, but tiredness, circumstances, and an unwillingness for kids to put on shoes when you ask them to, has caused me to waiver in my resolve on too many occasions.
I have learnt to lean on my friends, and stop worrying that I am the only parent that has yelled that morning before school, or after Athletics club. Yelling at kids does help long term, and we all know that. We are all striving to be better parents by doing it less, and even stopping altogether.
Here are some thoughts, in infographic form, from KiddyCharts answering some of the questions above; from tips to try to reduce your yelling at kids, to what you should do if you do.
And do forgive yourself for the occasionally relapse, sometimes life just happens.
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